7 Reasons Why Being a “Hater” is a Waste of Time
The #1 reason is plain and simple: You were created by God as an individual. You are unique and unlike any other person on earth!!! For hater’s this means nothing, but for lover’s this means everything! (I’ll break it down: It means you have a place and a purpose like no other) hater’s keep reading… it gets easier to understand.
#2 (another plain and simple reason) it doesn’t do you any good to hate! PERIOD.
Reason #3 We are all predestined for greatest, whether it’s on a small scale or a larger scale. Check out the reference: Jeremiah 1: 5 “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; before you were born I set you apart…”. See… God already had a plan specifically for you before you were even conceived!
Reason #4 Just because someone is better off, has this or that, or has a certain gift you wish you had doesn’t make them better or you worse (well you are worse if you’re constantly focused on what the next person has that you don’t have). We all have gifts that are meant to work together to achieve the ultimate purpose: to Glorify God and secondly, to be successful and reach our highest potential in all aspects of life – spiritually, career wise, educational attainment, relationships. We are all different. We all have different strengths, attributes, and gifts. But we are all governed by the same ONE! Check the reference (it’s much longer that the first but I guarantee it’s worth the read):
Corinthians 12: 4 “There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them.5 There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord.6 There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body.16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body.17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be?18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.19 If they were all one part, where would the body be?20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!”22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other.26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it. 27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it. 28 And God has placed in the church first of all apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, of helping, of guidance, and of different kinds of tongues.29 Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? 30 Do all have gifts of healing? Do all speak in tongues? Do all interpret?”
So you see. Just because your gift may be cutting grass and you have a brother that builds houses doesn’t mean your part as a grass cutter is any less… Because the potential homeowner still needs a house built and his or her grass cut! Or just because one sister has a Louie bag and yours is from TJ Maxx doesn’t mean anyone is better… Don’t the two purses do the same thing? (Personally, I’d rather be the sista with a bunch of nice bags from TJ Maxx and come out waaay cheaper than the sista with ONE expensive bag just because the name is Louie—but that’s just me) Anywho….
Reason #5 If you are a hater and your energy does go into worrying or coveting the next person you will miss out on what God has for you (and be the loser that you are today)! Corinthians 12: 18: “But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.” I think I will “say” that again: “But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be.” Wow! God is amazing. The gift you have was given to you because he wanted you to have it! He knew you would be perfect for it! And if he created you how he wanted you, don’t you think he will equip you for it? He knows the path he has for you and it is a plan to keep you from harm and to prosper you (Jeremiah 29:11). So you’re losing by not cultivating your own gift. If he so desires, the grass cutter can easily turn into a landscaper with the right cultivation and belief in self. Another reference: “For as he thinks in his heart, so is he” – Proverbs 23:7 – if you think as a hater… you are.
Reason #6 The greatest gift in life is love not hate. (You get back what you give! Hating makes you miss out on your gift of love.) Supporting your fellow man, not downing him because he’s trying different things, encouraging an adolescent in school, not discouraging him or her because you missed your opportunity to go to school, giving to the needy, not turning your nose up because you just got paid — these are ways in which we are connected in life—the fellow man can be the next CEO that offers your child a job, or that adolescent you encouraged could become your nurse and have to take care of you one day, or that person who was in need could have fought in a war that helped save this country. Creating a cycle of love and not hate creates a cycle of success and harmony. Which cycle are you a part of —love or hate?
And lastly reason #7 You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Be confident! Many people hate on others because they lack confidence in themselves! No one is destined to be a hater. It’s just a cowardly defense mechanism to get through life by not facing your own challenges, not believing in yourself and the ONE who created you, and being lazy! Reference time: Psalm 139: 13 “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
How amazing is it to know that God took out time to create a wonderful, unique being called you? Love yourself enough to know that you don’t have to hate, you’re one of His miracle creations too 🙂 .